A cherry red Telsa Roadster in your garage.
A cutie-pie to share your bed with every night.
A skinny botty to show off on your beach vacation.
A fat paycheck with lots of 000000’s.
Our desires come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, but the one thing they have in common is the promise when we get the “thing” it will make us feel better.
And, the thing keeps its promise for a while until we want something else.
We think our suffering is caused by not getting our wish, but it’s not. We suffer because we want things to be different than the way they are right now. Sounds like the same thing doesn’t it? But it isn’t. Dissatisfaction with what you have will only get you more dissatisfaction. Didn’t your momma ever say to you, “Nothin’ makes you happy!” Well, she was right.
So, how are you supposed to get happy and get that new Tesla?
Well, the answer isn’t to stop wanting. I don’t even know if that’s possible. The answer is to look around you and accept,
Hear me out. Accepting is not the same as settling. Settling feels like defeat and giving up– throwing in the towel because we think we can’t find the hottie to share the couch with for movie night.
Accepting is not giving up. It’s making peace with who you are, where you are, and what you have right now. It’s looking around and noticing that you are okay right where you stand even if you don’t have the new improved life you want yet. Repeat after me: I’m okay. My life’s okay. Everything is going to be alright.
Accepting is waaaaay easier tactic to get what you want–even though it goes against what we’ve been taught. Most of us have counted on action steps like effort, sacrifice, and struggle to get us where we want to be. But pushing for our desires wears us down. It makes us road weary and sucks the life out of us.
When we make peace and accept where we are then we energetically open ourselves up to receive. We make room for more. We relax into a state of receiving our desires. We begin to change the belief that we’re okay (safe, whole, loved, worthy) as we are. When we believe we are okay we stop our own suffering. We no longer need the new thing, person or circumstance to prove to ourselves that we are okay.
When you don’t need something to be different for you to be okay, then the desire magically appears.
Why? The desire matches your new energetic state of peace and acceptance. You ooze satisfaction and within this calm open place the lover appears at your neighborhood coffee shop, you lose the last of the baby weight, or your boss gives you the raise. You become a magnet for more satisfying things to flow to us.