The Three Best Gifts To Give Someone

Recently I had the honor to attend a talk given by Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche. Rinpoche is the founder and spiritual director of Ligmincha International, an author of nine books, and a master on the Bon Dzogchen buddhist tradition. Along with all of these accomplishments, he is also a humble, wise and effervescent spirit. He uplifts those around him by his presence alone. 

During Rinpoche’s talk he spoke about the best gifts to give someone. Rinpoche listed the following:

  1. Space. Give someone space. The space to be themselves. The space to be exactly as they are right now. The space to figure things out. The space to be.
  2. Awareness/Connection. Give someone your awareness. Give someone your full attention. The sense of being seen. The sense of connection to someone else. Look someone in the eyes. See their true self-the one behind the mask.
  3. Warmth. Give someone warmth. Give them your compassion. Give them your love. Give them your understanding.

These three gifts really spoke to me because it is a concrete way to extend the same Presence I feel during meditation. So often my meditations are full of infinite space, connection to The-All-That-Is, and warmth from my Soul-self, beings and Source. I love the idea of extending these gifts to others. For me, it feels like a practical way to close the cycle of giving and receiving.

I hope that you will join me in this practice. Space, Awareness/Connection, and Warmth are qualities that we all deserve and crave.