Striving to Practice Unconditional Love, but fall short sometimes? Try this practice in the meantime.

Have you ever encountered a knowing that rocked your world? It was something that when you read it, heard it, saw it—you knew in the core of your being it was true.

For me, when I encountered the knowing that God does not forgive. It rocked my world.

God doesn’t need to forgive because Source never perceives us as wrong. Source sees us as whole, perfect, and divine. Source is never judging us or withdrawing its appreciation of us.

Doesn’t that blow your mind!?!? And, make complete sense too?

This knowing feels like the true definition of unconditional love.

I aspire to live in this frequency all the time—always loving despite the conditions. Sometimes I’m there—allowing others to have their experiences, and sometimes I’m not there—wanting things or someone to be different.

When I’m in the place of judging and pushing against what is, I practice a form of the ancient Hawaiian art of ho’oponopono. It’s a practice that heals the part of me that sees/perceives/creates the unloving things I experience in the world.

You see, when we heal ourselves, meaning when we change our own perceptions, our own viewfinder, we, in turn, heal the world. 

The world changes because it morphs to meet our expectations.

Dr. Hew Len is a glorious example of using ho’oponopono to benefit himself, which helps others. Below is a small excerpt of his story written by Pam Grout.

You may have heard about Dr. Hew Len. He’s a former psychologist assigned to the special ward at the Hawaii State Hospital, a notorious clinic for the criminally insane. It was so bad that Hew Len’s predecessors left in despair (often in less than a month) after making zero inroads in the lives of the seriously disturbed murderers, and rapists. Hew Len was different. He rarely left his office. In fact, not once did he meet with any of the inmates, preferring instead to retrieve their files one-by-one and practice the ancient Hawaiian art of ho’oponopono. Basically, as he explains it, he was healing the part of himself that created such atrocities. It’s pointless, he says, trying to heal others. All he can do is heal himself. Little by little, nurses started noticing changes. Inmates required less shackling, less drugs. Somebody began tending the gardens, repairing the tennis courts. The atmosphere changed SO MUCH that prisoners, one by one, were eventually released. After four years, Hawaii’s clinic for the mentally insane was shuttered forever.

Pretty amazing!

You can practice ho’oponopono anywhere. It is super simple. The next time you experience something or someone that upsets you, angers you, frustrates you, etc. repeat these four phrases.

  • I’m sorry
  • Please forgive me
  • I love you
  • Thank you

Feel free to say these in your mind. I usually repeat a variation of the sentences several times. And, it helps me to repeat them until I feel calmer, and more loving. It’s important to repeat them until you get to the feeling state because words are nothing without the feeling behind them.